Episode #54: Dismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ESTJ
Let’s paint a picture: you’re an ESTJ – a born leader who always gets things done. You have a clear idea of what success looks like, and you hustle hard to make it happen. But deep down, you feel like a phony. You wonder if you’re really as good as people say you are and if you’re a step away from being exposed as a fraud. Oof, it’s a gut-wrenching feeling, isn’t it?
But here’s the thing: the Imposter Syndrome doesn’t discriminate, hitting all personality types, even our bold, authoritarian ESTJ (aka the Leader Striving Style). Despite their practicality, organization, and natural leadership abilities, ESTJs can still feel like they’re not as competent as others perceive them to be. The Imposter Syndrome can be a real hurdle for ESTJs to overcome, leading to a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety.
In today’s episode, we’ll explore some common triggers and symptoms of Imposter Syndrome in ESTJs, such as perfectionism, fear of failure, and a tendency to downplay their own accomplishments. We’ll also provide some practical strategies and tools that ESTJs can use to start building more confidence in themselves and their abilities, and to start living more authentically. Whether you’re an ESTJ struggling with Imposter Syndrome, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and tips to help you overcome these challenges and thrive in both your personal and professional life. So, tune in now to learn more!
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IN THIS EPISODE:
- [01:18] Episode Introduction
- [02:30] Why Does the ESTJ Experience the Imposter Syndrome?
- [16:34] Negative Impact of the Imposter Syndrome on ESTJs
- [26:18] Episode Gem
- [28:29] Episode Wrap Up
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- When ESTJs are acting from their Imposter Syndrome Persona, they behave like they need to handle everything on their own. They don’t want to ask for help, because they feel like that’ll make them look weak or like they don’t know what they’re doing. They put a lot of pressure on themselves to be perfect, and they don’t let anyone else do things for them because they’re afraid they’ll mess it up.
- The ESTJ is often fueled by a competitive drive to be the best of the best, but this can be taken to an unhealthy extreme when the Imposter Syndrome sets in. Deep down, they may fear that if they take a break or slow down, they’ll fall behind or lose their hard-won position of competence. This fear can be pretty intense, driving them to keep pushing themselves, even when they’re exhausted.
- The fear of showing feelings causes ESTJs to struggle in forming meaningful relationships. The constant pressure to prove themselves and maintain a strong, competent image can make it difficult for them to let their guard down and reveal their true selves to others. ESTJs may avoid introspection and self-reflection, which can prevent them from recognizing their vulnerabilities.
- Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in each of the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with behavioural or relationship dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, and you need help, reach out to us directly.
