Do you ever feel like you’re living a life that isn’t truly yours because you are trying to be what others want you to be? Perhaps you constantly strive to present a perfect image before you venture into a relationship or career. These behaviors often indicate that you’re overidentified with your Imposter Persona—a facade we wear to meet societal expectations instead of living authentically.

In my groundbreaking book, Become Who You Are Meant to Be in Your Personal Life, I outline six tell tale symptoms of being trapped in your Imposter Persona

1. Lack of Self-Awareness

You are so busy judging yourself and fearing others’ disapproval that you don’t see yourself for who you really are. This lack of self-awareness keeps you from recognizing your true strengths and potential.

2. Lack of Assertiveness

Struggling to express your thoughts, feelings, needs, or desires clearly and confidently is a sign of lacking assertiveness. This can manifest as passivity—avoiding conflict and failing to set boundaries—or as aggression, disregarding the feelings or rights of others.

3. Dependence on Others to Regulate Your Self-Esteem

When you rely on others to feel good about yourself, you constantly seek approval and recognition. This dependence undermines your self-confidence, causing persistent doubts about your abilities, appearance, and worth.

4. Deflecting Praise, Keeping Your Self-Esteem Low

Living from the Imposter Persona means seeking approval but being unable to accept it when it comes. Instead of graciously acknowledging praise, you might minimize your accomplishments or attribute success to external factors. This behavior reinforces feelings of inadequacy and perpetuates the belief that you are unworthy of recognition.

5. Neglecting Yourself, Putting Others First

Denial of pleasure and neglecting your well-being in favor of others’ needs is a hallmark of the Imposter Persona. This ingrained notion that your needs are less important can harm your quality of life and hinder your ability to recognize and celebrate your worth and successes.

6. Self-Sabotage Stops You Becoming Who You Are Meant to Be

Fear of failure, loss, abandonment, or being exposed as inadequate can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors. This includes telling yourself stories that cause you to doubt yourself and your abilities, deciding you really don’t want the things you have said you do, or undermining yourself to maintain a perceived sense of control. This habit keeps you safe but unfulfilled. Such patterns impede your progress and hinder your ability to thrive.

The Path to Authenticity

The good news? Identifying these symptoms is the first step toward reclaiming your authentic self. My book is filled with practical exercises and cognitive behavioral techniques to help you understand how your Imposter Persona developed and how to gradually break free and live from your Authentic Self.

With 30 exercises and practices to choose from to deal with the 6 symptoms, you can change the architecture of your brain. You’ll gain insight into your authentic potential and create a Be Powerful Roadmap to keep you on track. By redefining your self-worth and learning how to prioritize yourself, you can reclaim your personal power and become the person you were always meant to be.

It’s time to step out of the shadows of your Imposter Persona and into the light of your Authentic Self. Become Who You Are Meant to Be in Your Personal Life will help you do just that.

Are You Ready to Become Who You Are Meant to Be?

Take the first step toward transforming your life and embracing your authentic potential by purchasing “Become Who You Are Meant to Be in Your Personal Life.” By using the information and exercises in this book, you can dismantle the prison of the Imposter Persona and be free to live life on purpose so that you can achieve your authentic potential.

As of May 30, 2024, you can order your copy of “Become Who You Are Meant to Be in Your Personal Life” from!

Anne Dranitsaris, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist, Author, Leadership Coach

Feel free to share your thoughts, experiences, or questions.


Don’t forget to check out Dismantling Dysfunction, our podcast series for anyone who experiences dysfunction in organizations, leadership, or relationships:

Power Up Your Innate Potential Facebook Group is a private group to help you meet and mingle with other like-minded individuals that are striving to achieve their potential: