Episode #52: Romance Styles of the MBTI

The season of love is upon us! Time to indulge in all swoon-worthy matters: heart-shaped jewellery, romantic candle-lit dinners, red roses, chocolate covered strawberries… Except your partner just texted you they will be working late tonight (likely masking their discomfort with all things ‘touchy feely’) but will buy you the same boring flowers they do every year; you also just realized you forgot to buy a dozen ingredients for your home-made dinner that seemed so great in your fantasies but actually takes 6 hours to prepare, and you are about to open that bottle of wine and drink it in the kitchen on your own. Sounds familiar?

Truth be told, the one true culprit to such situations is… how our brains are organized. We each have a Romance Style: our own unique way of being romantic and how we like to be romanced by others. Not understanding our Romance Style or that of our partner is what leads to disappointment and frustration, especially during the hype of Valentine’s Day. Knowing our Romance Styles lets us define expectations for our relationships without being burdened by the ideals fostered through society.

In today’s episode we’ll give you a taste of the Romance Styles of the 8 Striving Styles and 16 Personality Types. We’ll be talking a little about each of their Relationship Styles and how they are likely to woo their lover on Valentine’s Day. We’ll also add some personal and client examples on this topic and offer some tips for each Style on how to enhance this romantic celebration. Tune in to hear all about how knowing your style, your predominant emotional needs and those of your partner sets you up for healthy loving relationships, with or without the romance.

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  • [01:49] Episode Introduction
  • [03:03] What Are Romance Styles?
  • [14:13] Leader (ESTJ, ENTJ)
  • [16:09] Intellectual (INTP, ISTP)
  • [18:34] Performer (ENTP, ENFP)
  • [21:38] Visionary (INTJ, INFJ)
  • [25:06] Socializer (ENFJ, ESFJ)
  • [27:52] Artist (INFP, ISFP)
  • [31:50] Adventurer (ESTP, ESFP)
  • [33:40] Stabilizer (ISTJ, ISFJ)
  • [36:27] Episode Gem
  • [39:03] Episode Wrap Up



  • Humans have an innate need for connection and affection, and romance serves as a means to fulfill those needs. Romance provides emotional intimacy, a sense of security, and a feeling of being loved and valued. It also helps to foster a deeper and stronger bond between two people and can bring a sense of joy, excitement, and playfulness to life. However, when it comes to romance, one size doesn’t fit all.

  • People need to see romance as a partnership. The notion that you should not have to tell your partner what you need leads only to a cycle of disappointment and disillusionment with love and with your partner. The focus needs to be on creating rituals of love and romance that have meaning for each person in the relationship.

  • If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with behavioural or relationship dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, and you need help, reach out to us directly.



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