Episode #64: Dismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ESFJ

ESFJs, the dedicated, responsible, and oh-so-warm connectors, are the backbone of families and communities, the go-to for comfort and support. They’re the birthday-rememberers, the milestone-celebrators, the hardworking team players! Their dedication is a force to reckon with, and their commitment is as solid as a rock. But beneath this dedicated exterior, they too struggle with self-worth, self-esteem, and a deep-seated need to be needed.

Imposter Syndrome in ESFJs often sprouts from their relentless drive to please others, which sometimes spirals into feelings of inadequacy. Their relentless drive to please others, to ensure that everyone’s needs are met before their own, can often lead them down a rocky path, riddled with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. They might find themselves in a whirlpool of overwhelm, feeling underappreciated, and in the worst cases, exploited by those they pour their hearts into supporting. It’s a tough balancing act – constantly prioritizing others can result in ESFJs inadvertently neglecting their own emotional needs. Their feelings, desires, and dreams often take a backseat as they strive to keep everyone else happy.

In today’s episode, we’re turning the spotlight on ESFJs’ silent struggle. We’ll unravel the intricacies of how ESFJs experience Imposter Syndrome due to a lack of Emotional Intelligence, their tendency for excessive caretaking, and the inherent self-neglect that comes with constantly prioritizing others. We’ll dive deep into this syndrome, revealing its impact on ESFJs and sharing some precious nuggets of advice to help you overcome these challenges. Grab your headphones, get comfy, and join us on this enlightening journey. Let’s roll!

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  • [01:48] Episode Introduction
  • [04:57] Why Does the ESFJ Experience Imposter Syndrome?
  • [19:56] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on ESFJs
  • [27:16] Episode Gem
  • [30:03] Episode Wrap Up


  • ESFJs tend to prioritize the needs of others over their own and may not take the time to reflect on their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences. This can make it difficult for them to develop a strong sense of self-awareness and can prevent them from recognizing their own strengths and accomplishments.


  • ESFJs continually give their energy to others without taking the time to replenish their own reserves. As they consistently put the needs of others first, they may inadvertently develop the belief that their own needs are less important or even unworthy of attention.


  • ESFJs may become overworked and overwhelmed due to their desire to please others and take on too much responsibility. Because they don’t say no, others take advantage of them, having the ESFJ do their work for them and then take credit for it. Their struggle with setting boundaries means they often don’t receive proper recognition for their hard work.


  • Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles is, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.





"Deciding to compensate for poor performance instead of managing it is an act of self- disempowerment."
episode 18 quote tile 2 - "When acting from the Victim Leadership Persona, our power and sense of personal agency is taken away by seeing situations through a  lens of helplessness."
episode 18 quote tile 2 - "When acting from the Victim Leadership Persona, our power and sense of personal agency is taken away by seeing situations through a  lens of helplessness."
episode 18 quote tile 3 - "Self-disempowerment starts from within. Leaders need to recognize when they are keeping their self-esteem low."

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